Walk away

Written by 
Brij Sachdeva

Good people 

Good people are simple, innocent and decent. They may not be clever and tactful but their goodness stems from their respect for relationships. They are nice because they love their family and those around them. They tend to avoid boldness because they do not want to compromise the peace and harmony in their relationships. They are not aggressive because they love the people around them. They love everyone around them not because this is their standpoint or a choice, but because of the fact that they are made of the stuff called love. They are the people of love. Their love is unconditional and unaddressed. Their love is not for this person or that person. They love because this is their nature. Their love is like the fragrance of a flower. The fragrance of a flower is not addressed to anyone. It is there because it is the nature of the flower. 

Society

In our society, there  is a general tendency to hurt good people. They are often seen as delicate flowers that can be easily picked or as cakes to be eaten. You might have heard the saying ‘You can't have your cake and eat it too’. It simply means that you cannot simultaneously retain possession of a cake and eat it too. Either you can eat it, or you can have it. The luxury of the kindness, generosity, goodness and the services of good people is taken for granted in society because they never instil a sense of fear in the minds of others that if they are hurt they can fight back or walk away.

When good people are hurt, after a period of time they stop shouting. They stop complaining. Now they don't beg for an explanation. They don't seek an answer. They archive the pain. They don't forget the feeling of that pain, but they save the pain. One thing they do is that they walk out of the place where they had been hurt. They just walk away and don’t look back. There is no revenge, no retaliation, they adopt only one thing to respond - and that is, distance. That is, they maintain distance. And although they do not give up their kindness, generosity and smile, something changes within them forever, and that change is irreversible. 

Walk away 

                                                             

Self-image and self-reflection

When you start seeing your worth, you'll find it harder to stay around people who don't. It is all about SELF-IMAGE and self reflection. Sometimes due to certain compulsions of life situations, the self-image of a person deteriorates up to such an extent that one is not able to realise one’s worth and value. Deterioration of self-image leads to compulsive submissive behaviour and loss of strength of mind. This further damages the self-image. So, a reciprocal feedback loop, called VICIOUS CIRCLE, is created. Sometimes we walk away not because we want others to realise our worth and value, but because we have realised our own.

Realisation

When we reach a point of realisation of our own potential and capacity, we need not seek worth and value from others. Then the magic of self-respect happens. Truth is such a thing that in its very small, fragmentary and momentary manifestation, it has the potential to change everything including your self-image, social image, self-confidence, self-respect, and strength of mind. From the very moment you have realized it, you get transformed into a new person. Now it is difficult to remain the same.Now, either you will fight or you will simply 'walk away’.